Set Boundaries For Exhausting People

Some people exhaust you and pull off your energy. Exhausting people will make you fight, even if you just want peace.

Interestingly, these “happiness saboteurs” can be found in almost every area of ​​personal life. They may be in your family, in a group of friends, or even in your workplace.

Sometimes exhausting people behave toxicly without even realizing it themselves. They need you, and they are looking for your support and advice so they can ventilate their own minds.

Yes, these things could be understood if the attitude of the people in question were not like that all the time. In addition to this , blackmail and chanting are often involved.

It is not always easy to live with such people. But you should keep one thing in mind: it is important  to know how to use proper respect in order to protect yourself,  and at the same time you should look for people who inspire you and bring happiness to your heart.

Exhausting people are a source of daily stress

We are all constantly in the midst of various stressful situations. However, there is one thing that you should understand very clearly. If someone is exhausting and repressing you and changing the balance of your emotional life, this is because you don’t have “protection”.

Every mind has its own level of protection or tolerance, and this of course depends on your own personality type.

• Introverts have a much lower tolerance for situations that involve ongoing social interaction. They need enough loneliness to be able to “charge their batteries”.
• Extrovertes, that is, more outward-looking people, seek more stimulation, and they generally tolerate and enjoy chatting with multiple people, moving around in different environments, and making plans.

The problem arises when  introvert or extrovert must face the happiness saboteurs we mention,  that is, the types of people who exhaust others. Exhausting people they always put their own interests first. They exhaust you with their criticism, obsession, and constant attempt to find problems that don’t exist.

Believe it or not, much of your stress is due to interacting with other people  – people who exhaust you or stress you out in other ways.

Negative interaction and its consequences in the human brain

In these types of situations, the word “returns” begins to take on meaning. Think of your brain as an astonishing network made up of nerve connections. It is therefore a connected fabric in which there is harmony.

As you go through times when you have constant or chronic stress, harmony is broken. As a result, some areas of your brain may even disappear.

• The importing branches in human nerve cells in the hippocampus of the brain then begin to break down. This is because there is a change in the intermediates. Cortisol has a very negative effect on the human brain.
• These import branches are extremely small factors that connect neurons to each other.
• The greater the stress a person experiences, the less the unification activity in the hippocampal area. This is because when a lot of import forks are broken, unity does not last.
• Remember that the hippocampus is the structure of the brain that stores memories and emotions.

We tell you all about this because it helps explain why during anxiety or stress, people lose their ability to concentrate. It is also quite common for a person to suffer from apathy and negativity.

How can you be less “vulnerable” with exhausting people?

It is not easy to learn to be less vulnerable in stressful situations. First of all, this is because sometimes a person’s own negativity causes them to become clogged. You will then feel defenseless.

How, then, can you react if, for example, an exhausting person is your own mother? Or your partner or your boss? These are, of course, sensitive situations that can place a heavy burden on a person.

So let’s look at a few simple strategies next.

“I won’t let them affect me”

It may be that you have a friend or family member who is constantly calling you to tell them about their own problems. One way to solve this situation is to answer their phone calls, say, only once every two days.

You should avoid a bad conscience if you set your own limits.  Of course, those people may get mad at you a few times, but then they will slowly begin to adjust to the personal limits you set.

Find people who will inspire you and make your heart happy

If one of your family members or co-workers exhausts you, take a vacation from that person by spending time with those who make you happy.

• Above all, life is about balance. So you have to do things by compensating. One thing for another.

• Exhausting people should keep a distance from yourself. If you have to interact with people like that, learn to set your own boundaries. So put yourself first and protect your self-esteem.
• Try to dedicate 70% of your time to personal enrichment. To do this, you need to look for people who are really worth your time and who inspire you. Find people who will make you feel confident and positive.
• You probably have some good co-workers, and there’s probably at least one person in your family that you like quite insanely.

And remember that  where there is love, there is no room for a person to exhaust you.  They consume your energy and even take away your health.

This is an important point that is definitely worth keeping in mind. Learn to set your limits on exhausting people.